Why Do I Keep Doing This?

Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that our emotional reactions should be controlled so we didn’t embarrass or upset our parents. However, if that control oozes over into our adult relationships, it’s considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Some sides of control are meant to keep us safe, while others harm connections. So, what are we supposed to do? Licensed therapist Kati Morton explores this common struggle. She shows how our anxiety is often connected to feeling like we are too much or less deserving of time and care.